Deb Lewin
Deb Lewin's family history spans several continents. Her maternal grandfather was born in South Africa, while her grandmother was born in England to parents who had come from Russia as children, settling in Rhodesia and neighboring Portuguese East Africa. Her great-grandfather served as caretaker of the synagogue in Mozambique, in the city then called Lourenco Marques. Deb's mother, one of two daughters, grew up in Rhodesia. The man who raised Deb, John Lewin, came from Poland to Rhodesia as a young child. Her mother and John, both previously divorced, met through the Jewish community and blended their families, raising five children together. Deb, the only girl, was the first in the family to be bat mitzvahed and attended a Jewish day school.
Deb grew up in Salisbury, now Harare, within a sizable Jewish community that included Sephardic, Ashkenazi, and Reform congregations. Her family joined the Reform synagogue, and her parents were instrumental in helping establish it. As political unrest grew in the late 1970s, the family made Aliyah to Israel, where Deb lived for three years, first on an ulpan in Ashkelon and later near Tel Aviv and in Rishon LeZion. She represented Israel in field hockey at the Maccabiah Games. When her home country changed its name, she found herself stateless during a visit to America in the mid-1980s, and she applied for and eventually received United States citizenship, settling with her family in Richardson, Texas.
In Dallas, Deb worked seven days a week as a videographer, paramedic, and master practitioner of neuro-linguistic programming. In February 1996 she was broadsided by a vehicle, suffering a brain injury, paralysis, and other lasting injuries. Told she would never walk or care for herself again, she found renewal through therapeutic riding at Equest in Wylie, Texas, later competing on horseback and representing the United States at Paralympic trials. She wrote a book of poignant and humorous stories about her journey. Deb volunteers at Equest, helps care for her older brother, and treasures large family gatherings across the Dallas area, carrying forward her parents' lessons of tolerance, education, and pride in her Jewish and African heritage.
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okay thank you Deb for coming in uh we're here today I'm Carol Wen now I'm interviewing Deb Luen for the uh roots to boots project for the Dallas Jewish historical society and I'd like to welcome you uh for this interview today de this is part of uh a process where we're interviewing individuals that have uh immigrated to Dallas from South Africa or countries surrounding the area and um I'd like to ask you first if you could tell us a little bit about uh the ancestral family the people who might have come prior to your parents from um Europe into the area of South Africa or
the African continent where they may have come from in Europe a little bit about their history and their past oh absolutely thank you I'm I'm glad to be here uh goes back a long time let me see um my mom's father father uh was born in South Africa my grandmother that would be my grandfather my grandfather my grandmother was born in England um prior to that her parents actually from Russia and they all came out as children to uh what was then Ria and to neighboring country of Portuguese East Africa and my great-grandfather on the rer side was um caretaker of the the synagogue in
MOS in um Mutu which was Lorenzo Marx and my grandparents got married and had two two daughters which the oldest was my mother and um she got married and we had grew up with five children in rishia and what about on your father's side my birth father's side I think they came from Rhode Island I'm not exactly sure of of the Heritage there I was just a few weeks old and um the man that raised me his name is John lean he's from Poland and his parents came out when he was just three or 4 years old to redia at the time to redia and
how did your U mother meet the man that actually raised you as a father they met through some mutual friends within the Jewish community in uh in Ria he was divorced and had two children and my mom was divorced with three kids and we grew up with the five kids four old Brothers what was the community like in rodesia you know it it was initially it was actually quite large we we certainly had the three different sections with the synagogues you had your your sapharic your ashkanazi and then the reform and given our uh mix of family heritage at that time we joined the reform
and my parents were very instrumental in getting the uh synagogues up and started up there uh all my brothers were bitford and I was the first one to be mitford in our in our families at all what city were you living in in Salsbury now called Harari and is that where you spent your time before coming to the United States or did you go elsewhere from redia in the late 70s when the political unrest was uh raring his head it was time for us to move so my parents my oldest brother Rob older brother Rob and his wife Joy my nephew Craig my brother Trevor
and I made Aliyah to Israel where we lived for 3 years prior to coming over here to the states my oldest brother moved to South Africa and my second oldest brother came directly over here to Richardson Texas to be with his birth father and the rest of our family that were living here at the time and where did you live in Israel first of all I was uh we were all on the old pan together in ashalon and then we all moved into the uh Jewish Federation South African building in um just outside of Tel Aviv so how old were you at the time uh
when I first went over there I was 19 and before moving to Tel Aviv I'm sorry we stayed in Rishon leion as well how did you like it in Israel you know I was young it was a little bit difficult to learning the language when we were at the opan it was uh you know initially it was fun sitting next to my parents and seeing my dad at the age of 60 yard going up to the Blackboard and and writing in Hebrew the the alphabet you know then afterwards I thought about it and I also felt very sad that that was the time that I'm
thinking they should have been retiring thinking about you know the easy life and yet there they were starting Absolutely Fresh again in Israel with everything very hard I think inflation was probably the biggest issue we never knew what the cost of anything was going to be day today they never put pricing up in the little corner stores because it depended on how much the eggs were that morning when they were delivered depending how much the bread was that morning so at the end of any given day you never know if you you could afford anything that day or not so I think for me that
was probably one of the hardest things and then of course missing my family and friends back home so uh I took solace in sports and I got to represent the country of Israel in field hockey and I was uh in the macabi games and it was a 1979 or 1980 and you were represented Israel what was your age at the time um 19 or 20 so would would you not have been eligible for the draft at that time no I had been married I was married at the time I was married I got a divorce in Israel so um neither were my brothers were not
eligible either uhhuh because of their age even though we're all in our you know late teens and 20s my youngest nephew was born in Israel and then when they came over here to the states he's never been back but he would have been um taken into the the military if You' gone back I believe it's up to the age of 25 for him so uh he hasn't uh he has not been back so I'd love to have gone into the military I would have liked that experience so so when you came here you were how old when I came here I was from Israel I
moved back to live in South Africa in Johannesburg oh you did I did and then a friend and myself backpacked around Europe for a year it's experiencing that and I came the American 1984 or 85 came over to see my brother Mike and my brother Rob who were living here birthfather was living here with his wife and his his children and I had no intention of staying here while I was here they changed my passport from rodesia to Zimbabwe rodesia the country change name which meant I was stateless cuz nobody recognized the country of Ria cuz we had sanctions put against against us uh from
the British back in the 60s so when we decided to make Aliyah to Israel it was one of the few countries in the world that would openly accept us because of Rian passport because we had the right to make aliad so the law called The Law of return if you're Jewish you can automatically go back there so the fact that we had Rian passports didn't mean anything thank goodness to the uh Israeli government so but you came here came here for a vacation uhhuh came here for vacation my country changed its name which means I lost my passport so I didn't have anything to travel
or leave the country with applied for uh residency and citizenship here in the United States um my whole family lived in Richardson we all lived with each other and close across the street from each other and back to back with each other and I applied for and received my residency and about nine years after that I became an American citizen and I love Texas and what what did you do uh for a living when you came here when I arrived here I was I was able bodied I was not in a wheelchair I had several jobs and that's the the wonderful gift about Texas is
it is the right to work state I was a videographer a video technician I did uh birth the video the births of uh children babies I did bomb mitzvas I did weddings I did funerals did all of that as well as all major sporting events involved in the video industry I was also a paramedic and I was a master practitioner of neural linguistic programming so I was able to I was able to participate in all those different jobs seven days a week to to make ends meet CU leaving redia you come with nothing just whatever's you whatever you're wearing and a few items in your
suitcase what type of education had you had prior to coming I completed high school we had the British schooling at the time which would be probably the equivalent of M level um so that's high school graduation and one year of college I'd also gone to for back in the day secretarial school and um then I'd also been a nurse's aid when I was back there that enabled me to get my paramedics when I was over here so okay so when did life change for you well I I guess I've had several life-changing events in my life one of them would be you know leaving the
country the only country I've known and language that I knew and my family and and making alah to Israel even though I had my direct family with me it's still um it's it's very interesting wanting to integrate into a society when you don't speak the language understand the culture the inuendos so that was that was probably one of them and then and in uh 22696 in February the 26th um I was broadsided by a vehicle in Dallas on my way to work and which resulted in a brain injury left side paralysis impaired Vision hearing uh rods and screws in my back and my neck and
uh so that was that was very life-changing I was very active I was working several jobs um you know I was at that point in my life where I was committed to help my parents at that point because they were now also over here with us in in the states everybody made Aliah after we made Aliah to Israel over 3 to 5 year period the rest of my family came over to Richardson so you know in '96 I was you know at that point where I was working I had a house and it was now to my turn to to start giving back to my
parents I was helping them taking them out doing all their paperwork and then suddenly the whole thing was reversed again at the age of of 35 I was having to get my mom and my friends and my family to come in and bath me and brush my hand clean my teeth and make decisions for me tell me what I'd eat that day where I'd go that day um I lost the ability to drive because they have no sense of humor here in Texas they won't let you drive without a driver's license or insurance so so that was that was um that was very tough um
for about 18 months they told my parents you know put me in a nursing home I'd never do anything for myself ever again I would never walk talk make my own decisions uh sit up straight my parents knew I'd played sport for Adia I'd represented Israel that I had a the attitude that if anybody could get through this then POS possibly I could amazing support from family and friends and extended family and a friend came over one day and said you know I've heard about this place called equest and Wy Texas and they offer therapeu riding on horses and perhaps that something you'd like to
do and I got really excited thinking oh that would be so much fun a day out the house you know not i' Riden the camel in Israel but that didn't help me one little bit so I went out to eest and I had the most amazing um coaches and people out at equest who helped me to get physically stronger mentally stronger emotionally Stronger by using the horse as a modality to enable me to uh do my therapy and it was through that that I started to be able to sit up straight and get rid of my neck brace and my back brace and all the
different AIDs that I had and even though I'm still in a wheelchair I can stand now and I can take some steps so I started competing on borrowed horses and I've represented the United States and been to two par Olympic trials and uh yeah equest definitely was a lifechanger for me after my life lifechanging event which uh I refer to as my opportunity and I see you have a book in front of you tell us about the book I'm excited I'm excited it's just just been published basically it's a story of where I came from in Africa uh making Aliah to Israel coming over to
America as able-bodied and um working all the different jobs that I had more importantly the most of the book is made up of interesting stories and positive influences in my life and positive outcomes I've had a lot of which are very funny it's mostly short stories that you can pick up and put down but mostly about seeing life differently enjoying each and every day you know and I think I think that's something I learned while I was in Israel there's a lot of people in Israel especially in the military that have to live their life dayto day and they have this incredible zest for life
and I really think that's where I learned that and carried it through with me so yeah my this is my book book one brain injury will change your mind but mostly it's funny stories and poignant stories and I think anybody you know be there challenged or in a wheelchair or walking around everybody can can read it and enjoy it and then get something out of it so I'm very excited of being able to publish that it's fantastic thank you fantastic so at this point in your life um how do you spend your days well I volunteer a lot at equest which is the therapeutic school
with which I'm Associated that gave me such a gift of being able to ride I also handle a lot of paperwork for my brother I have a brother who's three years older than me um who is mentally challenged and yet he is magnificent he lives on his own and he works but he doesn't read very well so I handle all his Banking and medical insurance and paperwork for him so a lot of my time is taken up with with that uh volunteering at other organizations and uh spend time with my family I've got a very large family now here in around the Dallas Metroplex so
my my days are busy my days and nights are very very busy is there anything in particular that you miss um from your life in rodesia you know coming from Ria and in retrospect we were extremely spoiled and very sheltered and I think some of the things that I miss is that everything closed down at a certain time on the weekend which meant that you couldn't go out and get petrol or gas uh you couldn't go shopping you couldn't go banking after about noon on a Saturday which left the whole rest of Saturday afternoon to play sport Saturday night to go out with friends and
then Sunday to all stay at home and and have family connections so I I miss those large um holiday days you know the Rosas and the pesak and with the family and it's such a large family my my grandparents and you over the past uh 10 and a half years my uh my dad John and my mom have both passed away and um just recently I we lost my brother in August of 2014 he passed away so I think the big family gatherings is possibly some of the things that I I really miss the most and the freedom we had then the country is not
the same anymore so um I was back there in 2013 for my uncle's 80th birthday it was so exciting just wonderful I went back with uh my partner Tammy and I went back my brother sent us back 4 days before his birthday just got on the on the plane and we arrived there the night before his birthday and it was just a wonderful wonderful event to be there and celebrate his life fantastic fantastic yeah were there any particular foods that were special to the culture there that were that we might not have here or might not be accustomed to right yeah there's a there's a
particular sausage which is a South African sausage called boros so really miss miss having that and just looks like a regular thick sausage it's that's really very very nice the pies they made there meaning the the Savory pies like the beef pie or the potato and peas I I miss some of that of course the local one of the local uh foods for the for the black Africans is something called sadza which is a cornmeal and they mix it up and it looks like a it looks like a dry mashed potato and they make a meat sauce with it and then you take the there's
a big bowl of it in the middle of the table and you take it with your hands you roll it up and you dip it and then you eat it oh my my mouth's watering just thinking about it and I think another thing that I miss a lot is that my mom's sister husband my mom's sister's lla capalo and her husband Salva capalo his mother used to make the most fantastic Jewish food that down the generations we've never been able to repeat there rikas and the pastos and all the things that our our tongue hangs out for and no matter how much we've tried I
think the interpretation of the foods we got in Africa and bringing them over here the recipes are not the same even when you play with them there's something about food that's made with a mother's love that does not an ingredient that's purchased it just it's there and yes I miss that I miss my parents very much but you you still have some family left there it sounds like some cousins perhaps correct I have two cousins that live in South Africa in Johannesburg one's married with two children the other one's unmarried that's fortune capalo and Linda capalo I have a brother Stan and and his wife
Sheila who live in Cape Town they have two children and um a son and a daughter and the son has one son that's my great nephew and then the daughter has a son and a a daughter and then um my aunt and uncle still live in Zimbabwe they were farmers back there and they just felt they were too old to leave and didn't know if they could make it with you know cuz you leave with nothing so I think my parents came to Israel with my two brothers sister law nephew and myself and my ex-husband um that was the good supportive team that we had
over there and then came over here at the states all of over to Richardson and the family's grown I have a uh my brother Rob and his wife Joy have two sons the oldest son Craig Luen and his wife Misty have four children uh the oldest who will be bom mitford probably in a year and a half so it'll be the first bom mitzer of that generation which will be very exciting and um his other son and his wife that's Adam and his wife is Ariel they have a son who's two and a half and they just had a daughter um on Sunday so it's
just wonderful extensions and we all live around the Plano uh Dallas area and get to see each other on on all the holidays and it's uh it's wonderful it's that big family feeling once again and because one of my nephews was born in Israel and one was born in rodesia there's a lot of traditions from each country that we bring together to celebrate all the holidays here together in Israel I mean in Israeli holidays here in Dallas in Richardson or Plano is there anything else that I might not have asked you that you think would be important for your family to know in terms of
your legacy what you'd like to tell them about your your your life your history your family history things that you would like them to remember about you I think if we go all the way back to my grandparents um Max and AC Cohen and my parents Margaret and John Leen something that was always instilled in US is to you know always see the good in others and appreciate the others and when I came to Dallas I had a very hard time I found a lot more anti-Semitism than I'd ever experienced in my life I was very surprised at that and you know my dad would
always say you have to understand that if if some people are just ignorant they don't know they don't know you to hate you or they don't know you to dislike you and so I always carry that on and you know it's like use education if it's possible to educate the person about my religion about my lifestyle style where I come from uh even to educate people on why I'm in a wheelchair cuz there has been so many times where I'd be in a supermarket and I'd be walk down going down the aisle and people would grab their kids like there was something wrong cuz I
was in a wheelchair so definitely you know they our parents instilled in us the ability to communicate and speak with people and accept where they're coming from with the idea of sharing what you have and perhaps you know letting them see both sides of the story and I think that's been instilled in my brother's kids as well well that live here in um in Dallas I think that's very important cuz I think it would be very easy when someone is against you for whatever reason to automatically be against them um but my my parents did did instill that in us and and wanted us to
to be the best that we could be and share and just because that person other people may not like us didn't mean we couldn't like ourselves and be proud of who we were be proud of being Jewish being proud of coming from Africa being proud to to be American citizens so and I think that's gone down the next Generations and I see the way my nephews are teaching that to their children so it's uh it's very exciting it's very exciting well thank you so much it's been a delight speaking with you today it's been a pleasure thank you for including me I'm I uh thank
you thank you so much appreciate it we really appreciate your time are you're welcome welcome thank you um I have a I actually have a question question that's um so you know the ignorance of Americans is that we know very little about the rest of the world most of the time right um do you have any sense of how your upbringing or your your Jewish life in rodesia compared say to South Africa or to um any of the other country you know similar countries was it was it a smaller population and therefore people were closer and more likely to be related or or um there
was really in Ria at the time there was actually a large Jewish population a lot of people came over uh from the second world war from places like Russia and um like my dad's parents from Poland they they came over there was there was very significant differences in the in the ashkan Jewish families and the safic Jewish families and when we went over to the reform uh synagogue my oldest brother married a woman who converted so that was possibly one of the things that may have gotten my parents to get so involved in that because it was more accepting for all of us we were
all able to sit together all the men and the woman sat together as opposed to being separated so that was to me I think that was more of a family bonding I went to a Jewish Day School when I was there my brothers didn't being the only girl they went to regular Public Schools I went to uh Jewish elementary school so that was exciting something I've noticed interestingly um is that some of the perhaps sayings that we had back there within the Jewish religion and some of the traditional things that we did as Jewish families were not down in Israel and then have not been
done over here in America either so for example when a when a person passes away and I wish I could remember know where this comes from and perhaps somebody can enlighten me we always said long life to the family right and when I've said that to people who originate perhaps from Africa from redia Zimbabwe or from South Africa they understand when I say to people in America they're like okay thank you but they don't have a clue to the Jewish neighborhood over here so I'm not sure how some of those traditions may have become ingrained at us within the Jewish religion I don't know if
it was an African influence in that that we carried it Forward um it was just something we accepted and after my grandparents passed away and then after dad passed away you know 10 11 years ago now I wish I I didn't know enough then to ask that where it came from because it was just we just did it it's just what everybody did and I had no clue that other people didn't do it so you know and now that Mom's also I mean I do have reference from my mom's sister Auntie Lila in Zimbabwe and if I'm not sure of something that's Jewish related they
help me to you know fill fill in the gaps for that um did you find among the people you knew that families came to rodesia to work in a certain area you know did they come as Farmers or did they come because it was similar or was it just just a place that Jews could come and they found whatever right kind of Life they had I believe it would be probably whatever work they could find at the time my dad John's family came out and I think they may even come on a boat to South Africa and then there was work available up north cuz
we're on the border of South Africa is Ria right and uh that they were able to get work doing that my dad's father worked in a convenience store um I think you know the the people back then really understood the idea of working and getting bread on the table and a roof over their family's head and that was very important my mom's grandparents and I'm not sure how my brother may be able to fill in the historical side of that how they went to Portuguese East Africa which was where my mom was born and they got got very involved in the synagogues over there as
car Akers and my great uncle Stanley and my great grandfather got involved in the art of glass making don't know how or where I think that had a Russian Jewish Russian influence on them because their parents would have been from Russia originally and they took that art of glass making and went all the way including to India and they placed all the mirrors in the Taj call back in the day absolutely so uh you know perhaps that was just a a metaphor for us to uh see our reflection and and and love who we are and like who we are that's a fabulous story we're
going to be interviewing Rob so we'll find out more about yeah he's he's the historian you know since since the brain injury I I don't remember a lot of things that perhaps could be useful for a video like this I can only remember what I can remember remember no but you've remembered so much about yourself and you have such a wonderful story to tell well thank you thank you I'd like to donate this book to to the library wonderful I'll sign it if you like that' be great so i' be glad to donate that I bought that to give to you guys for that oh
that's so great you're welcome thank you thanks for including me it's been wonderful thank you it's a great legacy to leave to the kids and great nephews and nieces