Eduardo Tanur
Eduardo Tanur's family history spans several continents. On his father's side, the family originated in Lithuania, where his grandfather and two brothers left at nearly the same time, one settling in Mexico, another in South Africa, and a third in the United States. His mother's family was of Sephardic origin from Bulgaria, and they left before the war, ultimately settling in Quito, Ecuador. His mother was raised in Quito and later met his father, who had been born in Mexico, through mutual friends. The couple married in Quito, where her parents lived, and then made their life together in Mexico. His mother passed away young, at age 60, from pancreatic cancer.
Eduardo grew up in Mexico City, where much of his childhood revolved around the Jewish community center, which he described as the equivalent of a JCC and the center of life for young people. He loved sports and, after school, would spend afternoons there until his mother picked him up at night. He was active in Jewish youth organizations and attended a Jewish school. He studied dentistry at dental school in Mexico City, where he and his wife Monica reconnected, and the couple never imagined leaving Mexico. However, as the country faced financial troubles and corruption, an opportunity in Dallas arose. His father, normally very patriotic about Mexico, encouraged him to consider it, which helped him make the difficult decision to move in 1992.
Because the family had done professional training in the United States, they already knew Dallas a little, and the welcoming community made the transition relatively smooth. Eduardo built his own dental practice from scratch, a project he counts among his proudest accomplishments, and he has long taught at a dental school. Though raised in a more Reform household, he chose Chabad of Plano so that Monica, from a more traditional background, would feel comfortable, and he embraced observing more tradition than he had growing up. The family committed to Jewish schooling for their daughters and keeps both Jewish and Mexican customs, especially cooking and language. They travel to see family in Mexico several times a year, and Eduardo hopes future generations will value and continue their Jewish heritage.
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well dr eddie i'm joe reingold today is september the 8th 2020 and i'm here with dr ed tanner uh and we're going to talk about his background his history and his life and how he came to dallas texas so thank you for being here today no thank you for doing this you're welcome first of all tell us a little bit whatever you know about your grandparents background your parents background where they were from where they lived where they moved to et cetera well from the side of my dad we had uh from the paternal side they were originally from lithuania and uh my grandfather had
two brothers from the three of them actually they ended up leaving almost at the same time one to mexico which is my grandfather the other one the other brother actually went to south africa and the other one ended up in uh actually in the usa so from the side of my mom then we had we had one one of them actually both of them were originally from bulgaria but they were more from sephardic origin so my dad's side is more espinazi um and ma they were born again they were actually from bulgaria before the war they actually got to leave and they went to quito
ecuador to south america from all places which is interesting um so they actually my mom was raised in quito and she stayed there until finally she got to actually meet my dad in mexico because my dad was already born in mexico city actually in guadalajara which is in the outskirts of the of mexico is one of the states and um and they met and they got married really three months after getting to know each other it was kind of an interesting shita i mean just the connection was i mean my mom didn't know anybody in mexico and it was through different friends that actually were
connecting with with each other finally my grandmother and my dad always tell me the story that when my mom arrived in mexico the one that actually got to meet my dad first obviously was my grandmother my my mom my mom's mom and um and she was the one that actually approved of of my dad first in order for my mom to get to meet my dad but but soon after that they got married and they really made the living their lives in wow did you so did they settle there did they get married and stay at that point in mexico they stay in mexico i
mean they they got married in quito because my grandparents were there and um and then after that they just went back to mexico and stayed in mexico for forever my mom actually passed away unfortunately young when she was 60 of pancreatic cancer but they made their living in mexico they really stayed there forever okay so tell me about your young life what was it like what kind of things were you what activities were you involved in well in mexico the one of the things that probably enjoyed the most and was one of the favorite things for me to do and my mom was very thankful
of having that the equivalent to the jcc in mexico the jewish community center which in mexico we call it the central deportivo israelita which was really everything for young people i mean really when you compare that to the jcc in the states um this really was kind of the center for everything i mean everybody went there uh in fact immediately after ending my school hours i just went directly to the jcc or to this place and spend the rest of the afternoon there until my mom picked me up really at night so i always like to do a lot of sports um so i was
really pretty busy doing all of those type of things and obviously one of the other things in from the jewish community aspect was that we were um we had many different um young jewish organizations uh like the nora tioni the bonim i mean just different things like macabe here you have fewer options so i was always involved in those type of organizations i was very happy to do that you know after hours or sometimes during the weekends but that that's really my my childhood was full of those type of activities until really until almost until i was married really good so where did you go
to college college in in mexico i mean we we had actually the dental school in mexico as monica was saying that's where we kind of re-met again but that was mexico city and the specialty the training that we had after that was here in the states but uh but yeah it was uh in mexico city had you had thoughts about leaving mexico city prior to your um offer here in dallas never i mean we really thought we were going to live our lives in mexico forever uh never really in a million years thought that we were going to end up being in a different country
any country we did have a happy life i mean things were good we have friends our social network and family uh so no it wasn't really until we you know we were offered to come then things changed for us a little bit and also mexico was going through kind of this type of rough patch with um you know basically having uh you know financial issues and the country was starting to really get bad in many different ways with corruption and um and obviously financially we had the the dollar against the peso and we were not able to really make that much money with what we
had so the offer came at that particular critical time and and we like monica was saying it took a long time for us to to make the final choice but we thought was going to be the best the best thing for us once you made your decision what was your family's reaction to all of that to moving well they were not super happy but interestingly enough my dad has always been very patriotic in in terms of mexico city being our place and the the country that i actually opened the doors for them to do whatever they were able to do so one of the things
that really made me think about coming was when he kind of hesitated a little bit and when i asked the question what do you think i should do for the first time ever he said you should consider this alternative so when he said that to me that was a very critical thing for me to make that decision so so yeah i mean obviously they were not happy to lose so i mean to really lose that connection but i do believe that even they they thought this was probably the best thing as a married couple coming here and yet you've already you had already been in
dallas but what were your first impressions of dallas as a couple trying to settle in and really make a new life for yourselves here well we we always thought because as monica was commenting before because we had the training here we knew dallas a little bit but i think it was very welcoming i mean really uh also from the community point of view because we knew some people it was very relatively easy for us to make that transition to to you know put the kids in the proper school um kind of very comfortable with with that you know with that uh with socially speaking so
we didn't really have that many issues and again we always thought it was a very good place even then to raise a family uh also from the socio-economical point of view a very good place to make a living a good honest living without having to really have that much money so overall we just thought it was just a good place for us to raise a family okay what kind of things have you gotten involved in either organization-wise or you know committees or anything else that you feel you've done that it's been worthwhile since you've been here uh definitely again uh definitely dental organizations quite a
few and i always been teaching also at the school at the dental school so that has been very important to me to be in touch with students then from the community perspective whatever we can do in terms of the schule and khabad of plano we always try to help with whatever other activities we have with the especially in connection with the kids in levine in japan so we always try to be involved also was part of the uh the board for a little bit monica was actually more active than i was but overall we i thought we had a very nice role kind of going
within the community and out of the community trying to to be part of uh of something you know organized so yeah i mean we always been honestly much more involved before than what we are right now because the kids are not here anymore but the kids were kind of that link that actually connect us to to the other organizations and different i'm curious how did you pick khabad of planos if you did not grow up orthodox well again that that was uh an interesting choice for me because comparing to monica monica was saying that she's she used to be i mean she had grew up
with the more kosher semi-observant traditional house actually i was pretty much reformed we didn't have that much going on in my house in fact i was the one pushing for more religion in my house at least for us to have shabbat dinner or something that will kind of puts us together in one setting for a little bit of time because my dad was very busy working uh and interestingly you know i was the one asking for those things and my brother and my sister end up ultra orthodox so that was kind of funny but uh but when we came to dallas i just wanted to
make sure that monica was more comfortable in that setting so uh which was really hard because we thought that monica was going to be more comfortable in more of the orthodox setting than if i went with a conservative or more traditional okay can you think of some customs whether jewish or mexican that you have continued here in dallas well pretty much yes i mean a combination of both again even even more than what i was exposed to when i was i was growing up with my family with my parents uh we always try to give the kids a little bit more of a sense of
tradition in the jewish from the jewish perspective um so and that was one of the commitments when we moved to dallas that i made to monica that we wanted to definitely have the kids in jewish school for them to be in jewish school so that they can be exposed to a little bit more than i was when i was in mexico even though i was i also went to a jewish school but definitely wanted for the kids to to have more of that so from my personal perspective perspective perspective comparing to monica um i believe i do more um i observe more of that traditions
that i used to which is great um and from the mexican perspective obviously from especially when it comes to food uh we definitely keep many mexican traditions uh in that sense we try to monitor always to cook mexican dishes and things that would be more traditional mexican besides when we speak and we speak with that lingo with the different slime in mexico we're very proud that actually the kids and ourselves we can communicate at that level so we we keep a lot of that traditional mexican customs and like monica was commenting before i do believe the the kids i mean my daughters are very proud
of that and they enjoy knowing that they have and and other people don't [Music] how often uh when have you been able to go see your family in mexico we definitely try to i believe throughout the year we probably see the family at least three to four times a year at least if no more because it's either us going to mexico or sometimes they're coming to dallas uh or sometimes getting together uh traditionally actually during the the winter which is the best time for us to go to mexico december um we almost always have vacations together with the family so so we know that's kind
of uh the thing i mean we always gonna have traditionally those vacations together and we enjoy them very much which i love to be with the entire family so so yeah we probably see each other at least four or five times a year oh that's wonderful uh you've been here quite a while and one of my favorite questions to ask people is um how has dallas changed since you first came here and also how has the dallas jewish community changed since then well definitely from uh just uh is the infrastructure obviously like monica was commenting to plano was nothing when we were here initially in
92 when we moved even a few years after uh was completely changed we couldn't even recognize planar obviously there was not even frisco then i mean not the way we kind of have it right now north of plano so yeah definitely lots of more people and residential everything has changed in that sense um from the jewish community perspective definitely more people than what we ever expected to come um and and really we're coming we're seeing more and more people coming more especially from mexico uh i have a partner in my practice which is actually also from mexico a jewish guy from mexico and um they're
like 20 years younger and they're they've really been able to do a very nice social network to many people that actually move recently from mexico that are more or less the same age as they are so so yes definitely we see an influx of and more uh jewish young jewish families coming from from mexico okay what activity or project has been very memorable for you in your life um that you're really proud of well probably one of the most important projects in my in our family life and it's actually when i got to that i was able to build my own practice my own office
which took a lot of sacrifices and and efforts and so something really that was definitely a turning point for us um and i was very involved in the project so i started really from scratch and finally building the kind of the dream office that i wanted so so i'm very proud of that because we came really honestly with not very much when we moved from from mexico and we were able to accomplish i believe many things uh socially and and obviously professionally um and and i'm proud that i didn't have to ask for help and i was able to do it on my own but
that's one of the things that i'm most proud of really um if you could change something about coming here or the way you came here or the location or anything would there be anything you would change uh not really i mean i i never thought about it like that but no i mean i don't see anything i wouldn't change really anything so okay well is there anything else with water that you'd like to add to the interview that we haven't covered uh no i mean just just that actually in terms of uh the jewish community and and the way we actually bring the kids i'm
just hoping that the next generations they get to enjoy what we were able to enjoy because obviously as time goes by and and different generations are changing um i just hope that they really value what we were able to have and hopefully they can replicate a little bit of that in their lives so so that that's really my only wish for the future of our kids and hopefully they will be um to some degree hopefully close to to the their jewishness uh because i think we're losing a lot of that so that that's really that's probably my heartfelt wish for them and for the next
generations but other than yeah we we think we've been able to to have what we thought we were going to have obviously we still we still miss our families and we wish we had one of them or some of them nearby but but we we knew that was part of the process so so hopefully our kids can be together hopefully they can come back to us which is really what we're praying for um and just be together and eventually just value those things that's wonderful we hope for that for you also so thank you eduardo for your time and for this interview it's and happy
new year thank you the same to you i appreciate this an amazing project i think is fantastic thank you tell others about us i will i will thank you thank you very much take care have a great day