Lynn Teitelbaum
Lynn Teitelbaum was born into a New York family whose American roots ran unusually deep, with even her great-grandparents born in the United States. Her father's family had come from Germany after the Civil War and carried a strong sense of German Jewish identity, something her mother reminded her of often. Her father worked as national sales manager for Skinner and Sons, known for silks and satins, while her mother, once a bookkeeper, worked for South African relatives in import and export. Lynn described her mother as a fun-loving Auntie Mame figure and her father as more Germanic and erratic; her parents divorced when she was about seventeen. She adored her maternal grandparents, who had come from Russia and met in New York.
As a girl, Lynn attended an experimental city school and later navigated several New York high schools, at one point transferring herself between schools without telling her parents. She was a serious student, worked on the school newspaper and magazine, and was a devoted football fan, known as the girlfriend of a leading quarterback. She loved Gilbert and Sullivan and practiced piano daily. Her happiest memories were of summer camp, where she gained sisters in her bunk, learned to swim, play tennis, and do archery, and first truly experienced Jewish religious life through Friday night and Saturday services. She went on to Hunter College as a speech major.
Lynn met her future husband Terry as a neighborhood boy she once dismissed as a hippie, only to fall for him after breaking an earlier engagement. They married in 1951, celebrating nearly sixty-five years together by the time of her interview. The couple began in a one-room apartment while both attended college, later moving to the San Fernando Valley in California for a business opportunity with her brother, and eventually to Dallas for another business venture. In Dallas she taught, worked, and volunteered widely, serving with a neighborhood youth movement and on the book committee at the J. She and Terry raised three children and had five grandchildren, and she urged the next generation to save their money.
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what do you remember when you're just a little girl oh I have a fabulous memory and I can remember a lot of things what are the things I remember very vividly was being told that I was such a good child that whatever they put me I would sleep and so I'm still till this day a good sleeper because I have it conditioned in my head with being a good child or a good girl and any which way I was the only grandchild for on both sides for a very long time until my brother came along and then I was the only girl until I had
a daughter oh so you are you telling me you were spoiled I really wasn't spoiled but I was very loved and I always knew it I had a wonderful childhood a wonderful teenage life and I only wish that for my daughters that they'd have is an exciting and it's wonderful teenage life as I did tell me about your parents my parents my I had a fun mother who was an auntie mame type and everybody adored her because she was a lot of fun I'll give you an instance if my brother and I did anything wrong and we always had a piano in the house because
she played the piano very well she would try to sweep us out from under the piano where we would hide under the baby grand piano she'd be hysterical we'd be hysterical she was fun my father was very Germanic so that was a different he was very erratic in his behavior he could be a lot of fun he could be really mean and they had did not have what I would call a very smooth marriage and they were divorced when I think I was 17 when they divorced Wow was your dad do for a living my dad was the National Sales Manager of a place called
Skinner's and sons very famous in their day to silks and satins and your mom that she workers stay-at-home she was a stay-at-home but we had my I have one grandfather who came from South Africa and so when the South African part of the family for import/export my mother went to work for them she had been a bookkeeper right and so she helped them set up what she was doing was ensuring a job for my uncle when he got out of the army so then she after that she continued to work yeah but we always had a maiden house my father did very well so with
that in mind it was very easy for her to be a gadabout now your grandparents - tell me about your grandparents on your dad's side on my dad's side she was very meek my grandma and the grandpa was the meanest man I have ever met in my life really he really was he was my mother used to talk about him is the Prussian but I will tell you something about that side that side of the family came over from Germany right after the Civil War and my mother used to say all the time you walk tall you're a german jewish girl and if you know
historically what that meant in the 30s and 40s besides what was happening with the war you still were considered a different category than are the Jewish people unfortunately you were considered smarter you were considered wealthier I don't know I don't know what but I did I was raised in the Navajo and household yeah what did your grandfather do that grandfather was a fabric designer so your grandparents they were born in this country yes okay and you were just mentioning to me off-camera that your great-grandparents were also born in this country yes so that goes back a long way for the rich here yes all in
all in the East Coast yes okay what about done your mom's side of the family you're saying they came from South Africa no no my grandfather did but my grandma they came from Russia okay okay how did they meet they in New York yeah they were by contrast the best people in this entire world I adored them yeah you mention them or I do and I get tears in my eyes I loved him yeah yeah what did you do for fun as a little girl well I had a very good group of friends and we're still friends to this day except we lost one and
all so I went to camp every year and that camping experience and that was for the entire summer was just the best memories of my life yeah and you were you know kind of a depression baby did your folks ever talk about the depression affecting the family you know they they didn't talk about it but I'll tell you how I knew my grandfather was a kosher butcher and if you know about kosher butchers had to by 3:00 3:30 have their stores closed and cleaned up they didn't have deep freezes and the freezes had to be empty and everything came back to my grandmother's house and
my grandfather had two other brothers that were in the United States one brothers remained in South Africa but on Sunday the entire families got together at my grandmother's house because she cooked she and they had to use up that food and so I know that it wasn't that there were people that didn't have a lot to eat but I will tell you my father had a car my grandfather had a car my uncle had a car well I don't think the Depression hit the family very hard yeah I mean it had to but I don't think as hard as some people it wasn't you know
what was the name of your dad's business my dad worked for who he worked for Skinner and Sons what did Skinner and Sons do they were a foremost in silks and satins Elementary School where did you go I went to an experimental school it was called 114 it was just a phenomenal school I started there in fifth grade my brother started as a kindergartner and the list of achievements of people that came from that school would wow you but it was a city school it was even though it was an experimental school and I still remember a lot of the teachers and a lot of
things that happened in that school how many people in fifth grade had teachers who start you off on Gilbert and Sullivan and we did a Gilbert and Sullivan performance every year of a different play do you remember some of the names of the teachers mm-hmm and that man was mr. klinken house my favorite teacher was mrs. Reiter I do remember like mrs. Efrain came to my door one day I thought my god what did I do I've always been a chatterbox I didn't know she came to play mahjong with my mother I thought I was in trouble yes I do remember a lot of names in high school where'd you go I went to Hunter high to begin with that's very prestigious to get into Hunter high but I had to take the train downtown and get squeezed into these trains like a sardine and I came to find out that my mother was bragging to everybody that her daughter was in untie well in those years you did what
you wanted to yourself and I knew I wanted to go to an all-girls school but I wasn't going to go through that so I transferred to a school called Walton and that was an all-girls school instead of going downtown I had to take the train uptown and all my friends were walking in crowds boys and girls together so then I transferred myself to Taft now I want you to know I never told my parents I just did it oh my gosh when did they find out I don't know so you pulled it off yeah what was it that made you want to go to an
all-girls school I really don't know I had this thing in my head that I was going to graduate school first and I wasn't going to get married until I had a career and I don't know why in fact my mother's don't want to force me to wear lipstick she said you look you look like a little girl nobody's going to want to date you yeah so I don't know why do you remember when world war ii broke out yes tell me about that how that affect you guys I was young I mean I you know in my day my age was young right i I
wasn't a I was a very neighborhood family girl I I don't know how it affected me at that time I just know my mother was and father were both big volunteer people and my father started selling gathering people to get war bonds and he would be the first one to commit to a war bond my mother started collecting stuff to send packages overseas to soldiers and guess who had to carry stuff to the post office with her so there was knowledge of it but did it affect me sadly of course bombing and the terrible pictures you saw and you saw pictures in you know you
didn't have TV at that time don't you saw it in the movies yeah tell me about what did you do in high school what was fun first of all I was very serious in high school I was a very serious student and so I did what I had to do and I was on the school newspaper and I was on the school magazine and and I was invited because I was short to become a cheerleader but those girls were oil with reputations and I wouldn't damage my reputation so I wouldn't join that it was nice to be invited but I dated a lot too I
wonder what what high school was this now half just half okay I I did it a lot when I was in high school yeah as I said out of there I was lucky I had a very good teenage life what was the music back then that you guys used to listen to well I had a practice piano every single day for one hour so I wasn't much into listening to music except I was a big fan of Gilbert and Sullivan operetta and so I didn't listen to a lot of the yeah you know when Frank Sinatra was on and every thing it didn't affect me
like it affect about the teenagers yeah you remember when you got your first television set I do because my mother and it's a good story my mother went to the track for the first time and they told her she could get the Daily Double for two dollars so she picked the horse yeah they said that was a good horse the second they said that's not a horse that's a dog you can't pick that well the horse running was my name she said it was my daughter's name and she was going to bet on it and she won $750 holy cow so she bought us a
TV then and it was she at those years it was it was a beautiful piece of furniture it was very long and it had what they called high five that time they said and the TV and that was our first set but I don't really collect the year do you remember any of the TV shows you guys would watch noburo yeah what else Oh Saturday Night Live we loved with it but that was a wonderful program there was something local that was on that Imogene Coca as a matter of fact but sit see sure thank you yes yeah yeah in the machine coke right I
was never into a lot of daytime TV I didn't do that I had something I was a radio person and I had something that I favored but that's going on to college now I planned my program so my program at school so I could listen to certain man every morning and on the radio and he was a nutritionist and now I always knew his name and now I'm forgetting his name or whatever then where did you go to college hunter in New York and the reason I went to hunter my father always told me I was going to go to Mount Holyoke because that's where
the skinners went to and that was the inn and I wanted to go to Ohio State I hate cold weather but I wanted to go to Ohio State because that's such a good football team oh I was a very big football fan I'll tell you that but my mother and father were in the midst of a divorce and nobody watched where I was going to or cared yeah and I knew I wanted to go to college and Hunter was fray they even supplied books so that's where I went to open let me tell you something important in my teenage life to my claim to fame
as a teenager was I was the girlfriend girlfriend of the quarterback of the number two team in the city Wow so I was known I was known through high school because I was that girlfriend so I was very involved in football in college was studying something for career yes yes I was a speech major but I didn't fulfill it first of all you have to I never went on to get a masters and it's a speech major you must have your masters and maybe even your doctorate but my mother felt that if I went into education I'd always be able to work so I thought
where did you meet Terry he was a neighborhood boy that I used to see everybody dressed in New York he was the only walked around in jeans and I figured that this guy is a hippie and then he used to hang out at the local candy store only people with their reputations hung out at candy stores so I dismissed him I mean I saw him in the neighborhood I never knew his name one day I was coming back from one of my mother's fancy luncheons at the Waldorf Astoria storia and I was dressed to kill I must admit that I was dressed to kill and
I was going to go out with this boy a date Saturday night and his mother was watching out the window from the oh she says you must come in the house Lindy's very sick and he can't take you out tonight and I literally was doing Lenny a favorite going out with him and I come in the house and met on five o'clock on a Saturday night Milton Cross was on with the Opera that was a very famous thing there was Lenny in bed with alle grass burg and this guy named Terry listening to the Opera this hippy listening to the Opera Wow anyway we became
part of a crowd and lucky me there was a crowd of guys in me and eventually and we used to do things that people did then we go in the park and go sleigh riding we'd have snowball fights we did things that didn't cost money and we'd walk we had this Grand Concourse and we walked and eventually Terry and I ended up at the back of the line of the crowd walking together and then I went away to camp and I came back with this gorgeous ring on my finger and he said let's go to a movie and we went to a movie and I
was really afraid to tell him that I was wearing this ring and then he said you get that ring off your finger and we'll talk business no won't tell me about that ring oh is the gorgeous two and a half carat emerald cut diamond ring with nice thick baguettes so somebody asked you to marry you yes yes yes yes yes and Terry broke that up yeah so instead of marrying somebody who had a car and money I married the poorest boy in the whole neighborhood it was one poor building now there were two poor buildings and he lived in one of them in a walk-up
but it's been the marriage has lasted though sixty-four years and counting well February will be 65 is he off probation you're gonna keep yes I'll tell you why I had I was really wild about another guy not the one I was engaged to and my grandmother said you're going to be a nurse major whole life that's a sickly boy he had really been on the march in Germany hmm he was in service and he was really in the height of everything he was quite a bit older than me and she said he is such a sickly boy so anyway when he came to Terry my
grandmother would have liked me to have married somebody with means or something behind him and she said that he will make it good he's a hard-working boy and he's very good to his mother and he will be good to you all your life yeah yeah so you guys got married in 1951 all right and where did you settle down well first we settled into no one-room apartment because we were both in college and I don't mean a one-bedroom one room and eventually we had our son and then I became pregnant again and my mother bought us a TV because she said you two don't have
enough to do at night my mother's really a daddy named and so 20 months later I had my daughter one of my daughter's still in New York yes but then right away we had we left and went to California because my uncle offered a wonderful opportunity it seemed or an opportunity it shouldn't say wonderful and that ago wasn't like my older brother we were very close very close and he and Terry just became like this yeah they had a wonderful partnership now did you stay at home and raise the kids in LA or I did until my youngest was six and then I went back
to teaching where were you living in California they San Fernando Valley okay and then what brought you to Dallas a business opportunity okay and your third child was born also in California yes okay are you involved at all with the Jewish community in Dallas yes tell me about some of the things that you do well when we first came here Torrey was traveling on the road so I did a lot of volunteer work here and I did a lot of because my daughter was young and the other two children were still in California I became very active in the neighborhood youth movement and so I
did work there I worked on the book committee here at the j.g I did a lot of different things I would I really was very involved in until Terry and I went into another business that I had to help him and also I started working here but believe it or not I went to school with another gal I met who had been teaching in another state and we took Texas history Texas government but I never taught here I went to work oh I know I applied for unemployment and they said would you like a job here so I said oh okay so I took a
test on Tuesday and on Thursday they called me and they offered me a job well I mean listen I I knew I would pass that test easy yeah so I worked there for a while a couple of years I don't even remember how long was the happiest time in your life actually when I was in camp hey Kem was just all of a sudden you had a lot of sisters you were in a bunk together I think who were eight girls when I was youngest and you had eight sisters and everything we did we did together and we shared clothes and shared experiences and just
did everything together and also that was my biggest introduction to religion every Friday night every Saturday we had to wear white and we went to services and even though I would go to Temple when I was a kid it was more plain around temple walking in and out seeing my grandparents or my pepper my father my mother had not a bone of religion in her body well this you were with your peers so why should me right right it was just just a wonderful time in my life I learned to swim there I learned to do archery I learned to play tennis I learned to
play softball did you stay in touch with any of the girls from camp I did for a while until one of my friends went to back to the camp I didn't I went to a different camp and she got polio oh and they flew her back and put her in an iron lung and then she passed away she was 17 years old and she was gorgeous and after that I it was very very hard for me to keep in touch I did keep in touch with one other girl that was Barbara bunny and bunny also had a horrible experience she was engaged to the football
player of her high school because people did get engaged very young in those years and he was killed kid no he had an accident on the football field and died and he was she was almost like a widow at 17 years old and those were my two tragedies at that age so I didn't keep up with too many people from camp after that was there an invention in your lifetime that came along that you went Wow how did we ever get along without that well my husband feels air conditioning and I guess he's right air conditioning I guess would be the big thing yeah yeah
if there is something you could have done differently what would it have been I think I would have finished school before I got married I think if I had that to do over again I had that I did to I would to have a career and not to squeeze time the way I was squeezing yeah yeah yeah now in your lifetime you've lived through so many momentous occasions of course World War two President Kennedy assassination Martin Luther King assassination something good the moon landing in 69 for the first time my brother by the way if you want me to tell you was very involved in
that because he was in Houston and he was budget control for the astronauts so his office was in the center and the Austral astronauts were around him and he had when he left he's got a picture of each one of them signed to him Wow he's been offered a lot of money for that but I think they're going to donate it to a museum now that he's passed away now you and Terry have the three kids and the five grandkids right what advice does gramma have for the next generation first of all the way people are spending on credit cards now I think the biggest
advice I would give them is to learn how to hold on to your bucks save money that's if you spend a penny put it penny aside well thanks for doing this today did a great job you