Mickey Warsaw
Mickey Warsaw was born in 1934 in Chicago and grew up in the South Shore neighborhood. Her father worked in ladies millinery, a business that thrived even during the Depression, allowing the family a comfortable life. She recalled her Hungarian grandmother, whom she loved, and a grandfather who worked as a furrier and was struck and killed by a car on Michigan Avenue. A brother who died at age five of spinal meningitis left a lasting grief in her family. A bright child, she skipped grades and attended the University of Chicago Laboratory School alongside children of notable figures before returning to Hyde Park High School. She attended camp in Montana, went to Cubs games at Wrigley Field, and saw Jackie Robinson play his first year.
She attended the University of Illinois in Champaign, where she joined a sorority, and met her future husband in front of a conservative synagogue on Rosh Hashanah. They married in 1953 when she was eighteen. She left school to raise their three daughters but kept a promise to her mother, returning to finish college and graduating at age 32, after which she taught school. Her husband, born with a hole in his heart, worked for his father's business, Warsaw glass, which he disliked, and later joined Metropolitan Life Insurance. In 1975, when she was about 40, the couple moved to Dallas for a management position offered to her husband.
In Dallas, Mickey worked as a substitute teacher and then at Metropolitan Savings and Loan, where she was the first Jewish person the company had ever hired. After her husband died when she was 59, she went to work for Jewish Family Service and became deeply engaged in Jewish community life. She joined the JCC seeking a Jewish home, along with the Jewish War Veterans auxiliary, an organization that resettled Jewish refugees, and a group supporting handicapped adults in duplex homes. Known as the bear lady for collecting stuffed animals for children's hospitals, she remained active in supporting veterans and children. She had three daughters, five grandchildren, and a great-grandchild, and lived by the family motto of honesty above all.
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after my husband died I went to work for Jewish Family Service mhm and there I got to know a lot a lot a lot of the Jewish Community I joined the JCC when I retired because I needed although I join I belong to a lot of organizations I needed someplace a Jewish Home right together I was alone right I was 59 when my husband died and I was still working but I needed a place where there were a lot of Jewish people that I could communicate with so I joined the JCC and they were wonderful they were so welcoming to me I wasn't quite old
enough for the seniors but soon I was and uh I started coming here and participating in all kinds of things and I joined the Jewish War veterans a friend of mine got me into that and I belonged to um highest which was the organization that brought the uh Russian Jews over and brought the Jews originally they brought the Jews over after World War II right from the from the camps and uh I got very involved in the Jewish Community yeah and the Jewish War veterans auxiliary and what do you do we are probably the most active Jewish organization here although there's a lot of great
ones um we are an auxiliary of the men's group the men have 200 members we have 10 100 members um we support the the uh veterans hospital all kinds of things in the veterans hospital we raise money to purchase things and do things for the veterans in the Veterans Hospital in addition to that we uh raise money for um several children's organizations here in Dallas we take take one of the veterans usually it's someone who is dying and whatever their last wishes are that they would like to have or do we provide there's so many things I I am now the bear lady we collect
stuffed animals from everywhere uh they don't have to be new although the hospitals want new ones I just put them in my washing machine and they come out perfect I right now have about 200 of them at my house we take them to the Children's Hospitals We Tour the children's hospitals and we bring them boxes and boxes of stuffed animals uh we just had um a membership luncheon at um one of the senior residences gave the luncheon for us we had 70 people there and they gave the luncheon and I used the Bears to decorate all the tables and they loved it and we got
all kinds of new members um we're very busy and very active and also we support High House High house is an organization that has purchased six duplexes in the Dallas area and converted them into each one becomes one house and they have handicapped adults that live there they have one or two uh helpers that live with them and they live each one has their own room and they live in this place they cook their own meal they're beautiful they are just beautiful they furnish them themselves it's not cheap to live there but they do a wonderful job with them they help them to get jobs
they help them get to their jobs if they're able to it's a terrific thing and we buy things for them we don't donate money we buy things we bought washing machines and television sets and we buy a lot of big things we raise a lot of money Mickey 1934 Chicago let's let's go back to the uh to those depression times what do you remember when you were a little girl I was totally unaware of there being a depression uh I even asked my father oh when I was somewhere in my 20s I said to my dad we studied the depression in school I don't remember
any of these things what did our family do during the Depression Did we have a problem during the pression my father said believe it or not his business flourished in the depression what business was that he was in ladies millonary uhhuh I said I cannot believe the first thing a woman could give up would be a new hat if her family was starving how could they buy a new hat he said be the first thing that they did what during the Depression was go to church he said and a woman had to have a hat to go to church so they would come in and
buy for a dollar $2 $3 they could get a new hat and they would feel like a new person and this got them through the depression and his business thrived in the depression cuz we had we lived in a lovely apartment in Southshore um my mother had a maid I had a nursaid that lived with us until I was 5 years old I said how could you afford all that he says everybody was in such need of work the nursaid lived with us we gave gave her a room and board she need she wanted very little money she took wonderful care of you kids and
it worked out beautifully and my mother played ma interesting interesting what do you remember your grandparents at all my father's parents died before I was born and my mother's parents um I remember my grandmother lived until I was 22 and I liked loved her very much she had a heavy accent she was from Hungary she was a little bitty woman fat little fat woman who I thought was much older than she was because foreign people looked older and kind of dowy in those days and my grandfather my mother's father lived till I was seven he was hit by a car and killed on Michigan Avenue
in Chicago go the year I was born he was hit by a car on Michigan Avenue and he fell and hit his head on curbstone he was never the same after that so I never really knew him he could he could barely talk to me and 7 years later on the 4th of July he was standing there watching a parade on Michigan Avenue and he was hit by a car on the same corner and killed wow very strange very strange yeah do you know what he did for a living he was a furer he barely made a living he was a very uh difficult Hungarian
sometimes hungarians have bad tempers and my grandfather would say to a woman who would come into his shop she would say I want a coat with this kind of a collar and this kind of a sleeve and whatnot and he'd say to her no I'm going to make you a coat with this kind of a collar and this kind and this kind of a sleeve and she'd say no this is what I want he says this is what I'm going to make and she'd walk out why' he do that I have no idea he was a very difficult man yeah yeah with a red mustache
what did you do for fun as a little girl well I was very tall for my age and skinny with buck teeth terrible allergies I was I was a case I was very shy I went to camp in the summertime I went to day camp uh I'm telling you my father's business was so good I did all kinds of things I went to private school I I was very clumsy and I could not do any of the sports but I went to Ranch Camp mhm when I was 14 my mother came home from shopping one day and she said I met this lady in the
in the grocery store and she told me she was starting a camp for teenage girls in Montana that's going to be for horseback riding and it's going to be for eight weeks living on a ranch in Montana would you like to go I didn't know a soul I was very shy I was scared to death but horseback riding oh God I couldn't believe I had the opportunity to do that I said I'll go I'll go I'll go and I had a wonderful time I went there two years that's neat how did how did you get out there we went on a train everybody that went
there were 25 girls the first year and they all met in Chicago and went from there and they came from all over but they met in Chicago we got on the train together and we went from there and we slept in uh births upper and lower births and we spent most of our time in the club car where they taught me how to smoke I was 14 by the time we spent two nights a day and a half on the train by the time we got there I knew how to smoke wonderful things you learned there now Chicago was such a hot bed of sports
and I know in Chicago women are very involved in sports the games when you were kid my father's brother had a box at Wrigley Field he lived on the North side we lived on the south side and so that the F the brothers could get together we would go to he had I think six seats in the box if there was two seats available and almost every Sunday there was my dad and I and I were at Wrigley Field I lived for the Cubs yeah yeah and when I got to be a teenager I had a girlfriend who was even more of a sports fan
than I was and we used to go by ourselves to get autographs and we used to follow them around and drive them crazy but you got autographs I have a whole book full of autographs from 1946 and 47 it was uh all the national league teams and all the big stars and whatnot I still have the autograph book and I feel that someday it's going to be worth a lot do you remember some of the big players that yes indeed I had all the Cub players who were my my my important to me I had all the St Louis Cardinal players I saw Jackie Robinson
play in Wrigley Field the first year he was in baseball and I heard the terrible things that they yelled at him and the terrible things they did to him and I could not believe it these were all and it was bad in Wrigley Field too it was bad everywhere yeah uh they they they called him terrible names it was terrible I saw all the first black players now you you remember if he got a hit or anything did they cheer then I would say no I would say they would Jer him rather than cheer him MH um if his wife was there I wasn't aware
and I think she did go with him many places but uh this was the first year and I was so proud of him that he made it through the terrible things that people did MH now where did you go to high school I went to hi Park High School which is the neighborhood where President Obama lives and I went through sixth grade in uh an elementary school in South Shore I went to um O'Keefe school and at sixth grade the principal called my parents in and told them I had already skipped twice and two grades and the principal said we want to skip her again
and my parents said no she's already a year younger than everybody in her class even though I was taller than all of them uh it wouldn't be fair to her well then you're going to have to send her somewhere else because we cannot in those days it didn't have special programs for other students we would suggest that you try some of the uh private schools if you can afford it so my parents had a conference and they decided that I could take the test for the University of Chicago lab school which is in High Park also I lived in South Shore uh and my parents
found out that there were going to be uh 100 kids taking the test and they were going to take 20 or 10 10 they were going to take 10 my mother said Oh They'll Never take her there're only going to take 10 kids we don't have to worry about it she won't make it guess what I did so they found a way to pay for I was a very expensive kid um they found a way to pay for it and I went off to the University of Chicago lab school and I went there for three years and I had the most amazing kids in my
classes to me they were ordinary kids just like me but I find out that one of them was her father was a Senator uh jeie Douglas's father was Paul Douglas who was a Senator when World War II came along he wanted to join the Marines and he was 50 years old and they wouldn't take him they told him it would take an act of Congress to get him into the Marines and he petitioned Congress and had an act of Congress passed so he could go into the Marines and his wife took his seat in the Senate wow and their daughter was in my class wow
and another one was sitting we were sitting in class one day and we studying the um the Supreme Court and they're naming all the Supreme Court's justices and they mentioned harand Stone who was had just been uh he just died at at that time and he had been the Chief Justice and this little girl who was new in our school jumped up out of her seat and burst into tears and went running out of the room and everybody looked at each other and said what and the pr the uh teacher said her grandfather was Harlem Stone oh wow so we had a lot of very
famous people had their children in our school but they were just kids as far as we were concerned we had Atomic scientists we had all kinds of things uh it was an adventure but after 3 years I said to my parents enough I've had a great education here but I'm not having fun like the other kids kids in high school and they let me go back if I promised that I would study very hard and get good grades if I went back to public school they would let me go and I went back to H Park and I graduated from there wonderful wonderful so we
it was worth it now let me ask you let's go back a little bit how did World War I affect your family well my dad was blind in one eye from something he had as a child and his parents were very poor and they didn't fix it uh so he was 4f he was also too old um my brother had died so he wasn't there my sister my sister drove a truck for the Red Cross my sister who was 5'2 a little tiny thing drove this big truck for the Red Cross as a volunteer my mother rolled bandages my father was a Aid Warden and
I was 7 years old when the war started right so I collected money for bonds war bonds and took it to school and we our class was in great competition for selling war bonds now you mentioned your brother passed away you told me earlier he was uh only 5 years old yes how how was that for your family it had to be it was something my mother never got over it how did it affect us I thought about it in later years how different our family would have been seriously if he had lived it would have made all the difference in the world my mother
grieved for him the he died on the 7th of January she grieved for him the seventh day of every month for the rest of her life he died of spinal menitis which is still incurable The Strain that he had they still haven't found a cure for wow wow all right well let's go after high school yes college or work College where'd you go to college I went to the University of Illinois in champagne and uh very shy again and I lived in dormatory and I had two roommates and we had adventures and the next semester I pledged for a sorority and uh I was not
that popular I was not that pretty I said why do they not want me and then I realiz iiz why they wanted me my grades in the in a sorority pledge class you got to have all kinds of things you got to have the most popular you got to have the prettiest you got to have the richest and you got to have the smartest right right so that's why they took me well that's a good reason though where' you meet your husband I met my husband on Russia Shana in front of the cons conservative Temple that he went to services at I was a cons
I was reformed he was conservative we went there all the kids would get together out on the patio of the synagogue on the high holidays and we would and that's where I met him and then I immediately went away to college ah and he would we would correspond I still have all the letters he sent to me and uh I would come home and he would he did yes I guess he did come down there a couple of times and I I had a lot of dates with a lot of different kinds of guys in the sority made sure I had a lot of dates
and I went to many dances and parties and whatnot and I was going with a guy who was 25 years old and he was much too old for me and I kept telling him he was much too old for me and he lived in St Louis and I was in champagne and he would come and visit me he'd send me a telegram and he'd come and visit me I might have married him if he was if I was a little old I was 17 and he was 25 it's a big difference in those I find it interesting that he would send you a telegram he
would send me a te this is not my husband no I understand he would send me a telegram that he's coming to see me and we'd be sitting at dinner on Thursday night or something in the sorority house and they they'd come with a telegram for Mickey slack slack was my name and I say oh my gosh and it was him if you're free this weekend I want to come and then he'd call me okay okay so okay I was just curious a telegram oh my God a very oh yes things were much more formal I'm talking about 1951 and 52 right right right right
uh so how did your husband Prevail he asked me to marry him I was 18 years old I said this is crazy we're too young my parents were beside themselves and uh he says no we have to get married I have we have to get married I love you I adore you we have to get married he literally talked me into it I told this other fellow after I went to visit I went to St Louis twice to visit him I met his family I met his friends I met all these people my parents thought oh my God this is you know she two directions
and I will tell you one more thing about this fellow from St Louis who was a wonderful guy when I came home and told my parents came home from college and told my parents he had invited me to come to St Louis for New Year's Eve and the fraternity he was a Sammy at alumni and the samies have a big party in St Louis every year for that for New Year's Eve and he wanted me to come and my uncle my grand my mother's brother happened to be there at the time we were discussing this he was not married he was and he was very
fond of my sister and I and when I told him his name he says oh my God he he said his father was my roommate in college oh of all the strange coincidences wow he says I know him very well I still see his father I still go there and visit with them he says he's a wonderful boy let her go well when did you get married we got married in 1953 okay I was 18 and he was almost 22 uh we didn't we were not driving behind the ears we didn't know what the heck we were doing and we got married and I quit
school and my parents said my mother said you will promise me that someday you will go back and finish college I had had a year and a half of college and I said I promise you when the time comes and it's possible I will go back and finish school and did you yes good girl three children later and 10 years later I went back and it's been four years I finished College when I was 32 and I got a job in Chicago and I taught school and whatnot and I was also a girl scout leader and a whole lot of other things what did your
husband get into what was his business unfortunately his father had a business his father was had Warsaw glass which was an automobile and window glass company they replaced windows or even did it in new buildings and uh Auto Glass they had a a shop where they replaced windshields and windows and what he hated it my husband he hated it he hated getting his hands dirty he hated it but his father my his mother kept saying your father needs you your father need you your father needs you my husband was born with a hole in his heart and they didn't know what it was at the
time he was born in 1930 he had a very strange sounding heart his parents took him to every specialist in the in the the Chicago area and other places as well they could not figure out what was wrong with him he was for XYZ because the doctors listened to his heart and said he was this big strong healthy guy we don't know what's wrong with you but we're not taking any chances go home right right you are now uh 4 y or something like that after the dogs and the cats and the neighborhood children you go yeah and they sent him home and uh this
they never were able to to diagnose it until it was too late to fix it and my parents weren't too happy about the fact that I was marrying someone who had something that would potentially be very serious but at the time he was very healthy and we said we can deal with it and we did but he died at 63 sorry and uh and they were amazed that he lived that long and how did wind up in Dallas my father convinced him to leave his father's business and go into something different cuz he hated it so much my mother-in-law was Furious my husband worked for
Metropolitan Life Insurance and in Chicago and uh he had a staff his own staff in this office of about six guys and one of them left and moved to Dallas and he came back about a year or two later and he said they're looking for a manager in Dallas for one of the offices and I told them about you and I thought you would be terrific we would like for you they'd like for you to come to Dallas and and interview with them to be a manager one of their offices and so um well he came and he talked to them and whatnot neither of
us had ever been in Texas period little L Dallas and I've been all over the country but I had never been inex Texas they lied to him they didn't tell him the truth about the job and about this and about that and whatever and what they were going to do and all the rest at any rate I came down with him and we looked around and we said if we're ever going to move out of Chicago this is the time I was 40 at that time so he was like 43 44 I said this is the time we won't do it any any later than
this why don't we have change our lives try something new see what's going to happen we decided to move to Dallas and he took that job you're in Dallas tell me how your involvement with the Jewish Community I got a job at Metropolitan Savings and Loan well first I taught school I worked as a substitute teacher in the Richardson School District and uh till it got to the point that the kids were so difficult that I decided that uh teaching was no longer fun right and I look for something else and I got a job i' never worked in a bank before I got a
job there and the reason I'm bringing it up is because I was the first Jewish person ever hired by this company Dallas is a Baptist City the Baptist um First Baptist Church was the strongest entity in Dallas particularly at that time I'm talking 1975 when we moved here and everybody in where I worked was bapti and when they hired me it was really funny because there were 150 employees of the company at that time they had nine offices I was interviewed by every officer of the company I was going to be a teller imagine to be a teller I was interviewed by the president the
vice president the secretary the treasurer the this the that the everybody else had to interview me because I was the first Jewish person ever hired and I had no experience in in banking what year is this 1975 okay so I started working and we got along very well everyone was very nice to me and whatnot and I was very careful about everything that I did and said and comes the first Christmas and the president of the company calls me on the phone at the office I'm still a teller I had been there 6 months and the and he says to me it has been our
um PR ice on Christmas to give every employee a ham a beautiful smoked ham along in a box he says I know you are Jewish and that Jewish people don't eat ham or pork he says is there something else that we could provide for you instead and I said I hate you know for you to have to go out of your way just for me I was the I was still the only Jewish employee so I said I appreciate it very very much but the funny thing is we are reformed Jews and my family is very fond of him I'll be very glad to accept
it which I probably should not have done but at any rate a couple of years later I get a phone call from the president again I just wanted to tell you that I have just hired another Jewish person oh wow he felt it important to call and tell me that there were now two Jewish people working for the company and he told me all about this young man wow anyway that that was my Jewish tie to the to the job which I stayed with them for years and then I left there after my husband died and I went to work for Jewish Family Service now
in your lifetime you've lived through so many momentous occasions of course you know World War II assassination of John Kennedy something good the moonland the first one in ' 69 and of course the tragedy of 911 was there something that really stood out I guess the most stunning event was when um President Kennedy was killed we were not living in Dallas uh I was still I was in school actually I had gone back to college and I was in school in Chicago when over the PA system at the school they announced that the president had been killed it was like a Gloom settled over the
ENT the room it was filled with people everybody put down their pencils picked up their books and like zombies walked out of the room walked down the hall and into the parking lot not a word there was not a sound got into their cars and drove home and we sat in front of the TV set for 4 days and cried now you and Bill had uh three daughters yes five grand kids yes one great grandchild yes what advice does Great Grandma want to leave to that next Generation our family motto has always been honesty above all uh you must be honest with your family honest
with your friends and do unto others we live our the golden rule that is my religious feeling and my life feeling that what you do what you want others to do for you is what you will do for others always if it's at all possible thanks for doing this today this is how we love thanks for doing this today did it great I thank you very much