Paul Singer
Paul Singer's father was born in Russia and his mother in Lithuania, both arriving in the United States in the early part of the twentieth century. His father was a deeply religious man who came from the old country and settled, along with several brothers, in Baltimore, Maryland. Paul's parents met in Baltimore and eventually came to Dallas, where his mother had a brother. Paul was the youngest of four boys, following his brothers Frank, Milton, and Urban, and at the time of the interview he was the only surviving sibling at 89 years old.
Paul grew up in South Dallas, which he remembered as the best place in the world to grow up and a wonderful Jewish community. He attended Colonial Elementary School and Forest Avenue High School, and he was bar mitzvahed and later sang in the choir at Shearith Israel from age 14 to 21 under Cantor Kaplan. His father was in the grocery business, losing everything in the 1929 Depression before opening a new store around 1940 or 1941. Paul and his brothers took turns working there, keeping the store, located on Meadow Street, until it was sold in 1973. After serving two years in the military, Paul attended SMU for a couple of years.
Paul married his wife Edie, a cousin of Selma Segal, after being set up on a date, and he called it the best decision of his life. Together they raised three children, Mitchell, Julie, and Lisa, and had three grandchildren. After leaving the grocery business, Paul went into food sales with Guaranteed Foods, rising to sales manager, and later spent decades selling and managing in the hearing aid business until age 82. He and Edie were longtime members of Shearith Israel and also active in the Temple Emanu-El Couples Club, where Paul twice served as president. He treasured his close family, taking them on cruises and, at nearly 90, planning a family trip to Alaska.
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okay my name is joe reingold and i'm here what did you tell me your first name paul singer is here interviewing with me today is august 31st uh 2018. good afternoon paul good afternoon tell me a little bit about your family whatever you remember of your grandparents your parents you know where they lived and how they got to be where they settled in uh my father was born in uh uh in russia and uh and then my father my mother was born in lithuanian i came here in the early teens maybe a little bit before the teens and my dad father was was a very religious person and uh in in the old country and um my dad came with another woman who they had to get out of russia at that time because the
the part of the country was having a warrant so uh my dad was was the wife of somebody else or one other woman and so they came over as together as a husband and wife so that they could get it done and um and they came to the united states and we had he had seven brothers and seven brothers and uh most of them were in baltimore maryland and uh my mother came over uh not a whole lot do i know about my mother she was born in lithuania and she came over and they i have three brothers there's four boys in the family right
now i'm the only survivor the oldest was frank he was 96 when he passed away milton was about 88 or something like that and then urban was 89 and i'm 89. okay so where did your parents how did they meet first of all uh actually from what i understand in baltimore uh they had uh they from what i understand you know it's a good question from what i understand they met in baltimore and i think they got married in dallas if i'm not mistaken they both came to dallas and my memory is not what it used to be and it's okay they my dad was in the in the grocery business and did very well this was in uh but in 1929 uh during the depression he seemed to have lost everything and had a hard time
until about 1940 41 when he opened another grocery store and my brother and i worked in the grocery store we took turns helping him and it was close to where we went to school i went to forest avenue high school and the store was on meadow street right off the middle street and we went every night then we didn't have a car at that time we used to walk a pretty good way to the myrtle street streetcar and we did that pretty well and [Music] things worked out very well uh my brother and i uh stayed there uh we kept the store from actually that
open at 40 i sold it in 73 the first time it was ever rocked it was after two to after that first drive in two weeks i had it sold and although i wanted to back you up for just a second and ask you why did your parents pick dallas do you know why they settled here uh my mother had a brother here and my dad why they picked out that's a very good question i i don't um i don't remember i don't i don't remember exactly why they came to dallas but they uh uh you know what i i don't remember if they got
married in baltimore i got married here in dallas i really forgot about that that's okay those things that's all right happened so fast so tell us a little bit about your childhood what you remember about the forest avenue area and all that okay we grew up in south dallas which is the best place in the world to grow up i mean we went to colonial high school colonial elementary school and went to forest avenue high school which is the best time of my life and it was a jewish community and it was south you couldn't be south dallas we had everything you wanted in south
dallas and and it's a shame that a lot of people that was the best jewish community you'd ever want to live in is in south dallas believe me i mean we had two theaters we had all the shows all the shows now in north dallas and go to soccer where i was bar mitzvah and uh and i uh daven from my about metro which is in those days you didn't hardly do that i did chakras and uh which they normally didn't do that in those days and uh our environments were there at the goodasam and uh then and then at 14 i sang uh in
the choir at the sheriff israel from 14 to 21 and sheriff israel this was in south dallas when sheriff israel was in south dallas and rabbi kaplan who was the cantor at that time when i uh at 21 i was uh i was inducted to the service i spent two years in the service and when i came back i found out that robert kaplan the cantor and he and his wife were driving back from houston they had a son there was a doctor in houston and they had a car crash and they both passed away which is terrible i enjoyed seeing you in the choir
and oh at that time when i after i guess you might say when i got out of the service when i got out of the service um i um i'm gonna think that i went to smu for a couple years and uh this was before actually well this is uh after i graduated high school and because i had to work in the store and help my dad in the store i went to smu but be frankly i just went there to have fun i had a lot of fun i loved the dance i loved the dance and i had a lot of fun but did
you have did you have in mind any particular courses that whatever the path that you wanted to do at that point at that time at the very time i figured that i'd be in the grocery business all my life i just figured that hey this is what i'm gonna do okay and uh so uh but uh then the civil rights situation came out this was an all-black neighborhood that we were in and um i can say that uh we gave credit and everything to the you know to the customers of our customers delivered there and in that to what 40 to what i say uh
40 to 70 i sold in 73 i bet we did not lose 200 in credit everybody paid their bills and we gave credit everybody paid their bills on time and uh i never had any fear of all at all in fact for many many years we walked maybe eight or ten blocks to the um to the streetcar during the black neighborhood at dark after dark it was never afraid and uh then in 70 uh what is a 73 we were around that one time and this was when the civil rights deal came about in two two years we uh i sold the store and uh
never did anything else in my life i took care of them we had my brother when he came home we had a brother my brother one of my brother milton joined us in the store and he went into the wholesale meat business and he sold to all barbecue places in south dallas every barbecue place in south dallas he he was a he took care of and from the store by some of the three brothers we worked in the store till that 73 which we sold it mitchell brother milton he went to another place to continue his business and uh i left and didn't know what
i was gonna do hey what am i gonna do here the only thing i know is you know the grocery store business so i uh my wife and i we took a little trip and uh we said okay paul let's see what you can do wait i'm stopping you go ahead you didn't say how and when and how you met your wife uh oh that's a good story i got a call from a friend of mine uh uh uh uh uh selma segal selma is evie's uh cousin okay and selma called me and says paul i have a cousin coming in from chicago would you
take her out so i started asking questions well uh what does she look like paul did she uh can she dance uh is she pretty and i went on and on and on all these questions and and then selma said paul i'm not asking you to marry the girl so but anyway uh i we went on a date and we were married what i think about maybe a year later or somewhere in that time so it worked out it was the best decision i ever made in my life that's great has do you have any children we have three i have four uh three children
how many children we have three three children three children okay three yeah mitchell and julie and lisa okay yes we have three children and um i think uh how you got my name is to mitchell's uh uh wife kathy yeah yeah you know have you known kathy for brazil i know who she is yeah okay and uh just just briefly how did she she you talked to her or she talked to you about it i think she called the office dallas jewish historical society and said that she would like she thought it would be nice if you guys you know did an oral history interview
so we went from there i'm just curious yeah yeah yeah and um so uh what happened was um you know i what did i know i mean it's for so the only thing i could think of was going into sales and so i uh i went into a a food service company that sold uh food to the home a sickening supply of food the name of it was guaranteed guaranteed foods okay and guaranteed foods what they did was it was jewish family that owned it and they sold six months supply of food to the home and they had food economists go out to the house
and this and the other and it was strictly a commission job strictly commissioned and i've never sold anything in my life but in horror uh i did i did well in that in fact is uh i changed their whole program and they weren't doing very well at that time but it was a nice organization but they had uh two brothers is you know the family was there and then the in-law and uh i kind of uh been in the grocery business now there i changed the whole program that they had and i was made sales manager and then i was made went up the ladder
in any way and we we the the program that active we consumed and not managing uh they became millionaires all of them i mean we did very very well and um and uh you know we were blessed too and uh they did uh they took pretty very good care of me and uh so uh then they got greedy and uh they went bankrupt and that's the way it goes sometimes so anyway when they went bankrupt i said well maybe i'll just retire and then i thought now let me see what else i can do so that that was on a friday evening i'd have a
look at the paper and look at the walnuts and they had one answer those days they don't have now but they had one eggs in those days and i saw something about um you could uh sell hearing aids watch some areas you know that's interesting hey that would be uh you know i wouldn't have to work all the time that could be daytime and just because i worked a lot of times at night day and night i trained during the day i trained i had a two-hour training session for all the sales people in the in the in the food business and i trained every
day this went on for let's say joining the 73 i think we went broke in 78 or something like that or something in that area but in the 80s in may was in the 80s so just in the 80s and uh but we did very well and then so i signed up looking at the paper i said hey you don't think i'll go this was a friday of just after i after i was signed and um and i went over there and uh they hired me and i started selling hearing aids and uh pretty soon i was training to sell hearing aids and i became
the manager and this and the other and enjoyed it i loved it in fact i stayed in the business until i was 82 years old but they did i mean i didn't work uh the last probably the last eight or ten years monday wednesday and friday okay just monday through monday and friday and uh not to uh say but i could make more in three days than most the other salesmen could do it we still didn't make a difference but anyway but it was fun and love the people i work with and that's why there is a safer and i can say that i have
been very blessed and i have wonderful children i have a wonderful wife so i have been very very blessed tell me what what other what activities were you all involved in either you and your wife or your family um living here in dallas as far as the community wide or even jewish wife what were you involved in well i tell you we um uh after uh a few years a friend of us were the temple of mania they won the temple emmanuel couples club so they invited us to join so edie and i joined although we go to sheriff israel and always have been a
membership of israel for 50 60 years whatever it is and that's why we were married over 60 years we were married there and uh so with the temple embankment couples that was very nice okay and uh i started off i was uh things sergeant-at-arms or something like this and then pretty soon i was president okay of the temple emmanuel couples club in fact i was president for two to two times okay two semesters and we had it was very very nice i met a lot of people that i would not have met before and we enjoyed him and it was a sort of a social
affair so we had eight or ten affairs and uh it was really very very nice and uh i enjoyed our companionship with all the people and meeting new people and so forth since you've been here most of your life um tell me how have you seen dallas change and grow what what what have you seen describe it to me well of course uh i grew up in south dallas and it was a uh it was in all jewish neighbors uh and and just have been at all but of course but uh it was it was the greatest place in the world to grow up in
uh forest avenue high school most of them were um most of them were a lot of the jewish kids you know and like i don't know if i mentioned but they had dances in the morning and dances in the afternoon i loved the dance so i i i hated to leave high school but uh the good things have to come to an end sometimes so i did that and of course while i was working i was going to high school i had my dad in the store and i uh i felt like i uh you know helped dad to the extent that uh i was
very blessed and did very well where did you move when you got married what area uh uh we we uh live in north uh not too far from uh hockey day uh the school there and um we have been like i said been very very blessed and i have three grandchildren and uh two of them all three of them have graduated college uh one of them is an elect aeronautical engineer one of them is just a school teacher and one of them is uh going to graduate in uh next may i guess it is and she's going to be in teaching teaching but she can
be teaching but she's in drawing and what's the term art or she's been in art so again i have been very blessed and i'm very thankful for everything um think about this for just a minute i mean you've had several careers and and all kinds of things going on if you could pick something what would you be well what are you the most proud of besides your family i know you said that but what else anything you could think well of course i i you know again i have been very lucky and i've been very happy and as far as proud i'm proud of my
family i mean they're we're all very close in fact i'm planning i took them when i was 75 we all went to all the family and went on a cruise together and right now i'll be 90 next uh year and i'm taking them all on my family and grandchildren we're going to alaska ah yeah we're going to be we're planning that right now wonderful and uh so that's i've been very fortunate very very blessed can you think of anybody along the way that might have been a role model to you know what she's always taught me a lot of things it's great um that's good
uh role model uh let me see here's my role model i uh i never gave her that much thought truth but a lot of people i can say is a role model that i've come in contact with um but often i i i couldn't think of anybody that really is a role model that's all right that's okay so everything sounds fantastic is there anything else you'd like to add paul to the interview no not really i uh again i have been blessed and uh i couldn't ask for more head over all right thank you very much wonderful