Ruth Henkin
Ruth Henkin's family blended two Jewish traditions. Her mother's parents came from Aleppo, Syria, and settled in Panama, while her father came from a Polish family and was born in Israel. Her parents met in Israel through a mutual friend, married there, and then her father moved to Panama, taking on the Sephardic tradition. Ruth grew up in Panama City, where most of the country's Jews lived, attending Jewish school from pre-K through high school and enjoying a warm, traditional Jewish life centered on family, weekly Shabbat dinners, and holiday celebrations with grandparents and cousins. Her grandmother and mother were active in community organizations, and her father ran a laundromat business in Panama's poorer areas.
Ruth came to the United States almost by accident. While visiting a close friend and future business partner in Dallas, she met her husband, Scott, who was already living there. They married when she was 24, lived in Florida for about seven months, and then moved to Dallas, which has been home ever since. Leaving her family in Panama was hard, but her mother sensed she was marrying someone wonderful. Ruth and Scott, who came from a Reform background while she was raised traditionally, explored their faith together and eventually settled into a modern Orthodox life, keeping Shabbat and raising their three daughters in Jewish schools.
In Dallas, Ruth began as a stay-at-home mother, volunteering at her daughters' preschools and often working in the kitchen. Missing her Sephardic food, she taught herself to cook, and after catering an event at a friend's request, she and her partner Ceci launched what became a catering business of more than 23 years. Ruth remains devoted to her three daughters, Rachel, Stephanie, and Hannah, and to her faith and community, supporting causes through her business and volunteering. She cherishes her many friends, who have become family, loves Israel, and considers Dallas her true home.
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good afternoon today is tuesday march 3rd 2020 and i'm joe reingold and i'm interviewing ruth henkin for our one story at a time project viva shalom hello ruthie good afternoon tell us a little bit about your family their origin where your grandparents are from where your parents were from where they grew up and then a little bit about your life when you were younger where you grew up okay so my grandparents from my mom's side came from syria from aleppo and they came to panama and my dad started the family from poland so i really have both sides on me the sephardic anishika nasi but
i grew up completely being a safari jew in panama so my mom born in panama my dad born in israel they met in israel and then and now once they got married in israel my dad moved to panama and took on the sephardi tradition how did they meet in israel you know and now it was like a set up when my mom got there she had all these people to meet yeah and my dad was not on the list so they and um she met him through a camel friend and that's how they met and they got married there and then he moved to panama
with her okay and what city where did they live panama city that's where most most jews live so tell us a little bit about your life when you were very young what was it like there so we have a jewish life we went to jewish school all the way from pre-k until high school and you know we have a very traditional jewish life we have shabbat every friday not so much saturdays back then i'm talking about over 25 years that i've moved from panama here but we have every shabbat dinner we celebrate every holiday and always around family we always have a shabbat with grandparents
with cousins and always together we have or sundays for lunch that we all get together for passover we don't really eat out nothing that is not crucial and just very traditional jewish life in what ways were your parents involved besides at home and the traditions in the home were they involved in anything in the jewish community or in the secular community in panama city um so my grandmother especially was a person for the weasel it's a very good organization in panama where the woman gets very much involved and my grandma was a person for many years and my mom also she volunteers in a lot
of organizations and every time there was like a bar mitzvah she would volunteer pick up the food and take it to a hospital for people in need beautiful wonderful and your dad my dad just a working man what did he do for a living so he had a laundromat store like an um laundromat in in a lot of the poor areas in panama so that was his business okay and what kind of activities did you enjoy when you were growing up or even into your teen years so i really much enjoyed being with my family and um you know i was very close to my
grandmother still close for her even i'm not her here and she's going to be 91 no 92 this year coming up and you know in my time off i will help her in the store and then we take vacations and uh pretty much vacation a lot with them with my grandfather my grandmother and my parents and my cousins and also growing up i was in a group called maccabi for young and jewish kids every saturday we get together and that was also a part of my jewish life and i enjoyed her yes so what did you see yourself doing after high school and what did
you end up doing so not a caterer i don't imagine feeling myself educator and now i don't know it's different there and now pretty much the girls graduate and they go to college and the young kids you know started high school back then was not so much like that it was pretty much you know you get a job you get married and that's what you do here in panama and um i didn't have dreams really of coming to the states it just happened to be coincidence in my life and now cece i'm a business partner and she's one of my best friends in panama i
came to visit her here and that's how i met my husband scott and that's how i am here was not buying any plans for nothing like that i was just playing it how old were you when you moved here so i was just turned 24 when we got married and we got married we did yeah okay then we live to florida we live in florida for like seven months and then we move here to dallas and what did your husband do for a living he's himself so he was already here he's already here yes but then i don't really want to leave panama so i
don't want to come all the way to dallas so he said that i'm living in florida probably closer to panama so he transferred to florida so we got married we lived there for seven months and it was not really our place so we moved here to dallas and it's been amazing since then and you've been here how long um 25 years 25 years so tell us a little bit about well first of all what was the reaction to your family when you decided you're going to move to dallas and my mom happened to fall in love with god i think she met him and she
knew that even would be sad to be away from me it would be she know be amazing for me because i know she just happened to have the feeling that i was marrying somebody amazing so they got sad but in the same way she knows how happy i am so they're happy for that okay were there any other family members that have had left panama also i have three other costumes that live in new york and that's what i did so they moved there moved to new york okay eventually my parents ain't getting divorced and my dad lives in florida now but everybody else is
in canada so how often do you get to see everybody your family that's there at least now once a year okay yeah do they come here my mom comes here my dad comes here and my i have a brother and a sister and they don't come here and ask me because they know that i go to panama okay what were your honest impressions of the united states when you first came and dallas in particular so i don't know first i was just taking it all in little by little not having so much expectations just to see how the flow of my life will be and
um when i married scott he was reformed not orthodox or traditional like me so i think it was it's good because we both and um embrace or judaism in your life and when do we we try different shoes different things until we find our place and now we both live in a modern orthodox life you know we push for shabbat and we raise our kids in the jewish school all the way three of our uh the three of our daughters are you all add me into jewish schools and um and we practice that we made amazing friends like real some some comes some goals but
i can say at this point and um i'm super happy i couldn't be in a better place in dallas i just love it that's great what activities and interests and job opportunities did you have when you first came here and what are you still involved in i was just stay home mom i work you know retail here and there but i was pretty much involved with my daughter's schools so when they are now wearing preschool then i volunteer for events and i would be in the kitchen that happened to be my my i don't know something that i kind of knew what to do with
it and then eventually became my business you know the catering and uh but yeah that was always involved and with my kids preschool schools so tell me how you got really got started in the in full time in catering business so i'm gonna be honest when i got married i didn't know how to do nothing i didn't know how to cook i didn't know how to eat well an egg and my husband will cook for me and it was great until i really miss my tradition food my sephardic food i want to have shabbat dinner with my customers my food so the only way to
do it was getting in the kitchen and doing my shelf so i did i got in the kitchen i started doing the food and it happened to be good and one holiday i think was for sushana and me and ceci now my business and partner she we cook together and then her sister is marcy marcy wrote she loved it and she asked us to cater an event for the architecture fair and um we say she was crazy we don't know what we're doing but she said you can do it and we did and everybody loved it and that was the first time we tried event
and never liked it so we started doing it for fun here and there and um i have my first child says he moved to los angeles and then we stop it and then a friend of ours ask us again and we do it again so it was just more for fun until we start really being serious that i think we've been over 23 years that we've been doing catering now yeah but that's how we started just trying myself and the opportunity that marcy gave us and here we are that's great what adjustments did you have with life in dallas versus how your life was back
home how is it different from the life you used to lead it's very different because i don't have my family here you know you miss them but you make the best you know i have three daughters they become my life i have my husband family here it's not very big but i to have my mother-in-law my father-in-law lane and my father-in-law's wife i do have a brother-in-law here but mostly my friends i i have amazing friends and they are my family and because of them we're here and having a happy life full of friends i mean that's a bad table my house is always full
and it's my friends i fill them up and that's amazing what are your daughters all doing these days what are they involved in yeah so i have three daughters and rachel is the oldest she is 22 and she is in college at ut austin and stephanie she's 18. she's a senior yapna and she will be taking a gap year after and my baby is hannah she's 13 and well she will be 13 sorry coming up next month and she is in seventh grade in the cube academy very good what kind of things have you been involved in besides your business in the jewish community and even if anything in the secular community so we got very involved with data of plato we helped them and um we built that community we were really really much of what we still are and but we don't live in the area anymore but you know we try to
we try to get and involve in anything that we can but especially with our shows okay anything in the community at large in particular no but you know if anything that we need to volunteer or make phone calls i know my house will make a lot of phone calls and uh every time here that we can donate we will and uh we're giving a lot of and uh daca and also the business have helped and in many circumstances where that here we can have in houston if the thousands of jews and so i guess i get more involved in my business to try to help
the community if we can it's wonderful what traditions do you feel you're not following anymore that you used to do back home can you think of anything or that you missed and you're not doing it anymore no i think i'm very good to bring my traditions into my life into my home into my daughter's life actually i think i'm doing more hair than i used to do in panama because you know even i have it all in my family and everything i had the opportunity to build something with my husband and to you know give a different life to my daughters you know we we
took on the religion slowly we embrace it in our everyday life and and even i miss everything in panama i love everything i have here because it comes from scratch becomes something that we build together from the very very bottom and we are in a position now that we couldn't be more proud very good wonderful i know you've already touched on this a little bit but can you think of one thing that you are the most proud of at this point my daughters yes why did everything you raised them right i hope so um how does israel play a part in your lives if it
does um we love israel we love visiting israel and uh you know we really i'm proud of our oldest daughter when she took the gap year and lived in israel for a year couldn't be more proud we could have been more proud of our middle daughter having that opportunity coming up what is she what is she with a particular program she is with george there yes yes so she's taking your course there you guys talking to your course that's what raquel did now it's definitely following the same quick steps and i'm sure hannah will be too yeah yeah good okay what traditions do you see
your children your daughters carrying on from what they were taught from you i hope they keep living the jewish life that will enforce them i hope they bring that into their kids i really hope so you know i don't have the expectation they have to be just like us because now we usually shabbat you know but you know just just have those traditions just celebrate about every friday you know and have the kids hopefully in jewish schools i don't know we really hope that they can we hope they can follow our footsteps yeah i hope so i still love them regarding what decision they take
but i really really hope they do can you think of anybody that was truly a role model for you at all that was influential in some of the decisions you've made my mother yeah totally okay yeah in what way how is she everyone she's just loving and she's truthful she she gives everything for her kids she's there for us she's a wonderful person and i need her a lot [Music] last thing about dallas you've been here a long time uh what changes have you seen in the city itself from when you came here till now yes and it's amazing to see how this community is
growing how many different shoes we have and how many restaurants are opening how there's you know even a mecha there is opportunity for all of us different caterers to succeed in this community and to give something good and i just it's enough just to see how amazing this community has been growing yes if you ever had the opportunity to you and your family or you and your husband to move back to panama would you take it i don't think so no i love it here i do i love it there to visit to see my family but this is my family here now you know
i've been here for 25 years over 25 and this is home for me i go back home in panama but i'm ready to come back to home dallas yes so i love her here i do know we're happy to have you thank you ruthie very much